I spent too many years apologising for who I am.

I apologised for….talking too much, forgetting things, changing careers,

and for changing my mind about almost everything.

I was told I was anxious, disorganised, fickle and over-sensitive.

Then I understood my ADHD.

My own school reports finally made sense.

My lifetime of comparing myself to others and falling short made sense.

Me always wanting more of everything made sense.

Risk-taking and overdoing things made sense.

All the parts of me that I had seen as character flaws had a new explanation.

And that changed everything.

I am an ADHD woman who spent decades believing she was the problem.

A teacher — 30+ years in classrooms, long before I knew I was one of those kids.

I was the parent who has sat in that school meeting, fighting for a child while still trying to understand myself.

I was an academic with a Master of Inclusive Education. I believe that warmth and compassion goes well with evidence and research.

When I looked back over my life, I realised something else.

I have always been drawn to the outsiders - vulnerable children, struggling families, displaced refugees, outcast AIDS patients and drug addicts.

It wasn’t just because that work was meaningful, but I was genuinely DRAWN to those people for a reason.

Back then, I didn't have the language for it yet.

Once I understood neurodivergence, it all fell into place. I belong WITH them. I like to call us the misfits, and weirdos.

This has become MY story.

i wear 4 hats as a coach

I know what it feels like to spend decades believing you were the problem.

I've sat in that school meeting. I've fought for a child while still trying to understand myself.

For more than thirty years I've worked with children who didn't fit the systems around them. Long before I knew I was one of them.

Everything I teach is grounded in rigorous study. Warmth and evidence belong together.

Understanding yourself changes your life.

A “diagnosis” can be the beginning of something, not the destination.

Self-trust is built through experimenting and creating evidence of who you are.

People have spent far too long apologising for their brains that were never broken.

The life you are trying to build should fit your brain and NOT the other way around.